Most people in the gym didn’t know his full name. We just
knew him as Randall. He had been coming to our gym for years. As regular as
rain, he might say. He rarely missed.
His wife was alive when he first started coming. She’s gone
now. Has been for years. She was from Germany but I have no idea how they met. He
had become an amputee at age 4 when he was run over by a car, but he just never
let it bother him.
Later years found him in an electric wheelchair, after his
stump really couldn’t hold a prosthesis.
He would wheel that chair around the gym to position himself in front of
one piece of exercise equipment or another. Sometimes he would transfer off of
it onto a piece of equipment, like a bench for doing a bench press.
Powerfully built, it hasn’t been that long since he was
tossing around 80 pound dumbbells. He
also freely tossed around his ideas about what was right or wrong with the
world. Our politics collided and I would tell him so, but he embraced dialogue
on issues.
He left the gym early one day, barely a week ago, asking me
to tell his buddy Phil that he wasn’t feeling great and that he would see him the
next day. He didn’t make it. At age 92, he died of an apparent heart attack.
If I were to sum up what I knew of Randall, I would say
simply that he was a man that lived life on his own terms. His only complaint
was that it was hard to get old, but then he defied those odds by pushing a lot
of weight around the gym. And then he didn’t.
This isn’t supposed to be macabre, just a bookmark in a long
life. For me, it is a call to enjoy life and not waste time doing things I
don’t want to do. To surround myself with people that enhance my life and none
that detract from it.
I’m 71. Thirty years ago, I was 41, with all original parts
and a family growing up. I had my health, more than my share of happiness, and
was doing work that I felt was important.
In thirty more years, I will be 101. Statistics tell me that I won’t make that.
Maybe. I’m not planning on going anywhere but we are not promised tomorrow.
My mom died at 93 with bad health for a decade before
succumbing to an accumulation of things including advanced dementia. My dad
died at 84 after having had his first heart attack at 45. He lived for almost 40 years on the medicine
that would ultimately kill him.
I find myself making decisions about what to do today,
tomorrow, next week, next month, next year based on what would I do if I didn’t
make it to tomorrow. Eat that pie? Sure. Skip that workout to ride bikes with a
grandson? No brainer.
Some buddies have invited me to go mountain biking in the
area around Brevard, North Carolina in December. The trails are open and I
really like these guys, but is it really convenient for me to go? I might miss
something here! It’s not at all out of my comfort zone but I get so tied up in
the same daily routine that any deviation is met with some degree of
reluctance.
But I’m going. And
we’re probably going to a friend’s beach house sometime this winter. It’s free
and he offered. And I’m going to pick up the phone and call an old friend and
catch up and talk about days gone by. And then do it again.
I’m going to tell those that I love that I love them. If
somebody has wronged me, I’m going to purposefully forget all about it. I’m going to eat that Benton’s bacon and take
that hike and head to Oak Ridge for Big Ed’s pizza anytime my wife even
mentions it. I’m going to take that
little namesake to the Blue House that she loves and play tennis with my tennis
player anytime he wants to.
I’m going to drive to Blacksburg and take the oldest
grandchild out to dinner. I’m going to watch soccer games and track meets and
sunsets. I’m going to sleep late (sometimes) and go about the business of
lifting up those around me.
Because I can. RIP Randall.